Asian Outfit of the Day – Best Friend’s Engagement

Hi loves, as promised today I have an outfit of the day post for you. This is a little throwback to my best friend’s engagement, which I have written all about [here]. We went for a white and gold theme, and of course the friends and family matched that theme to a tee. My best friend actually chose this outfit, and the second she sent me the pictures I approved. Today’s post is going to be mostly pictures, as I am sure that is the most interesting part of an outfit of the day post.

Asian Outfit of the Day

If you read the aforementioned blog post, you’d know I made a little sneaky detour after my friend’s engagement and had an impromptu photoshoot at a local park. With the lighting just right, it would have been silly to not join in and take a few pictures of my look too. I just love how the pictures turned out, so this post is really just an excuse to share them with you.

The dress was from Memsaab, a shop we have in my town but they also have an online shop. It’s actually a replica of another design they have, but when I compared the original to the replica, I couldn’t see or feel much of a difference. Due to the dress price and also how pretty it looks, this dress is now on pre-order. We picked it up in the colour gold, but the mint shade is beautiful too.

Details:

Dress – Memsaab £35 – pick it up [here]
Jewellery – Bees (Green Street, London)
Lipstick – Beauty Bakerie Mon Cheri £16 – pick it up [here]

I hope you liked my Asian outfit of the day post, do let me know if you would like to see more posts like this. I do wear Asian/Indian/Bengali clothes quite a bit, even more so since I got married so maybe I can do more posts like this in the future if you enjoyed it. Speak soon, Tanzina x

A Bengali Bride: My Best Friend’s Engagement

Hi loves, long time no speak on this little series. I haven’t forgotten about it, and I hope to continue on it soon, but today I have an installment that isn’t quite related to my own wedding. Today, I wanted to share the experience of my best friend’s engagement, as it went so well and so beautifully, that I was sure it would interest and inspire some of you.

Let’s start by saying my best friend is pretty much wonder woman, she is so good at crafts and just organised, on point and a god send during my wedding. There was no question about whether her big day was going to be a success or not, it just was. She created so many beautiful taals herself, created beautiful favours herself and just thought out every little detail. I was just there to make sure her plans were carried out just how she imagined it, and I am proud to say I think I delivered on that front. One thing about Asian weddings, as a bride you need a right hand woman/women and I was lucky enough to have her as one of mine. There was no way she was going to get married with me repaying the favour.

I didn’t do many taal creations, she only tasked me with a few as she is the taal expert and needed little help from anyone. I created personalised cookies, cheated and bought a cupcake bouquet, created an apple taal, made a strawberry laces rose bouquet and got my sister to make a cake pop taal and my mum to make a patishapta one (sweet pancakes stuffed with coconut). That might sound like a lot to some of you, but on my engagement she made double that. And she made ones that require a lot lot more effort and time.



Let me put things into perspective, this is what Yasmin made just by herself:

  • Cute little betel nut jars
  • A Lindor tree
  • The sweetest little paan taal with a traditonal Bangladeshi house
  • An edible sugar cube Taj Mahal
  • A Ferroro Roche cone
  • A Malteaser’s candy tree
  • A Lollipop candy tree
  • A Munchie candy tree
  • A Marhsmallow candy tree
  • Bombay Mix cone platter
  • A personalised chocolate tiered mock cake

Like I said, pretty much wonder woman. On the day itself, I would say everyone was pretty relaxed. I got ready at home and went over and found Yasmin getting her hair done. Her makeup was done by Art of Liza, and although I won’t show you Yasmin’s face, take my word when I say she looked so amazing. I quickly did Yasmin’s sister in law’s makeup and headed over to the venue to make sure everything was in hand and all the taals were being displayed properly. Yasmin wanted the event to be really intimate, so decided against having photographers and videographers as they can detract from the intimacy. However I couldn’t help but snap away on my camera (with her permission) and be the designated photographer for the day along with her brother in law. I think that although unintentional, was such a great idea, it gives the photographs themselves a special meaning and helped capture so many candid shots.



We had a little dessert table at the cinipaan, and I loved how it turned out. I know you did too from your response on Instagram! It was a combination of Yasmin and my vision, and I am so impressed with how it turned out. It’s not too elaborate but sometimes the simpler things look better don’t you think? It did help that Yasmin chose a beautiful cake for the table with matching cupcakes (at my insistence). We both have some props like cake stands, sweets cars, and I recently picked up some beautiful trays solely because I knew they’d look fabulous at her event. As I was setting up the table, I actually accidentally dropped a cupcake! Luckily we had spares and Yasmin didn’t mind at all. I’m so glad that I was able to carry out her vision, she made it so easy for me.

Now for favours. Yasmin wanted something that was special, not something that just gets used and thrown away after a day. So she decided to make a CD with some beautiful verses from the Quran for her guests. Keyword here? Make – this bride is all about the DIY life. She burned each CD and pretty much designed the packaging for it herself. I did some quick work on Photoshop with her ideas and ta-da we had a personalised cover for her CD cases that was in line with her theme. She also had single white roses bought in with tag, which she placed on top of each CD. It looked beautiful.

Overall the actual event was a success. Timings were right, the food was so good. If we did it over again I don’t think I would have changed a single thing and I think she would agree. It was stress and drama free, exactly how it should be. Alhumdullilah for the blessings, and hopefully she has the same experience for the rest of her events.

After the event, I did a quick detour with Yasmin, her niece and her other friend. I took everyone to a park nearby and did an impromptu photo shoot. The lighting was right, and the background gave the pictures an even more magical touch. It’s funny how the best plans are the ones you didn’t really plan out. It just happened.

Now onto the most exciting parts, outfits! Let’s start with Yasmin’s beautiful outfit. Traditionally the groom side chose the bride’s outift and vice versa, although nowadays many brides and grooms choose their own. Yasmin opted for tradition, and her in-laws got it SO right. I love every single detail of her outfit, I wanted it for myself! The jewellery, the saree, the clutch bag, everything was paired so perfectly by her new family. She looked absolutely stunning.

For her family and friends, Yasmin chose a semi stitched long dress that was so floaty and elegant. This wasn’t too expensive, which is ideal for engagement events as you don’t want to blow your budget but you still want to look pretty nice. I love Yasmin’s taste, I pretty much can trust it blindly we have pretty similar tastes. She chose the outfit and I knew it would be a hit with me and it was. I am so glad that she chose something that can be worn again, sometimes you pick up Asian outfits and only wear them once. I can’t wait to wear this again. I’ll post a quick outfit post really soon with more pictures for you all.

I was so happy with how the day turned out and I know my best friend was too. The preparations and tasks felt like so much fun, and even Yasmin commented how she enjoyed the prep of my wedding more than the prep of hers. I think because you don’t have the stress on your head and it’s just so much nicer doing something for the pleasure of someone you love, rather than yourself. I wish I could re-live the day again.

I hope you liked being a fly on the wall at my best friend’s engagement. I know I have so many Asian readers so I hope this was insightful for you and also inspiring too. I’ll speak to you in a couple of days with my outfit details! Speak soon, Tanzina x

For more posts from the Bengali Bride series, be sure to check these out:

Wishlist Wednesday #6: Kat Von D & Too Faced

Hi loves, I’m back again with a Wish List Wednesday. I thought it was another one of my series that just turns to dust, but hey it is still going. Today’s wish list is a bit of different one, it is actually me wishing for something that I technically have. I am of course talking about two amazing products, Kat Von D Tattoo Liner and Too Faced Better than Sex Mascara.

So I actually managed to get hold of the mini versions of both products. How good are mini products, it is such a great way of trying out products without committing to the full size versions just in case you hate them. Too Faced and Kat Von D did a collaboration, and I pretty much squealed when I heard about it. I’m going to whiz through both products and tell you why I love them and why they are firmly on my wish list.

Kat Von D Tattoo Liner

I am not a fan of eyeliner pens, I feel like they run out too quickly or don’t distribute the liner even and sometimes the nib gets all bobbly and ruined. This however is unlike anything I have ever used, it has a brush tip meaning it distributes the liner evenly and the brush doesn’t get ruined. The tip is SO fine, and so easy to work with. It’s made me fall back in love with liquid eyeliner. I’ve been using this mini version for quite a while now and it shows no sign of giving up. It is so precise, have I said that already? It’s just that I’ve never been able to get such a thin line in my inner corner before. I will 100% be picking up a full size version FOR SURE. This retails for £16.00 and you can pick it up [here].

Too Faced Better than Sex Mascara

I don’t know what took me so long to try the original version of this mascara (I’ve used the waterproof version before) because clearly I was missing out. This makes my lashes STAND OUT. Like you cannot miss my lashes, it makes them more defined and thicker looking too. It took me a while to get the hang of using this mascara, intially it does deposit a lot of product which is annoying, but I quickly learned to wipe it down on the mouth of the tube and it was just perfect. I am assuming as it gets drier, and you use up the product, you won’t need to do this anymore. Regardless I need the full size in my life. This retails for £19.00 and you can pick it up [here].

If like me you’d like to sample the products first before you go and purchase the full size, find the Kat Von D x Too Faced mini kit [here] for £18.00!

That’s it for my Wednesday Wishlist. I found that most products I mention on these posts, I tend to pick up. I should do a post sometime in the future labelled Wishlist Purchases just so you know which one makes the grade. Do you have a favourite liquid liner or mascara? If so, I’d love to know more. Speak soon ! Tanzina x

Switching Up My Skin Care

Hi loves, I finally have gotten out my skin care rut, hurrah! I’ve been making do with the same skincare for years, and I think in the last 6 months I have started getting a little bit more experimental with my skincare. It all started a few months before my December wedding, I wanted radiant skin so I invested in some Sunday Riley skincare (which I have spoken about extensively here). Since I had such good results, I’ve decided to try a few more new products, so I thought I would share them with you all. This isn’t an in depth review kind of blog post, more like first impressions.

Switching Up My Skin Care

So the first couple of products I’m using for switching up my skin care are from Sunday Riley, a brand I’ve seen really good results from so it made sense to try more from the range.

Sunday Riley Skin Care

Sunday Riley CEO

Sunday Riley Juno Hydroactive Cellular Face Oil

The reason I wanted to try this despite loving Flora was a) Sunday Riley recommended this to me for my skin type and b) to see if the scent was more bearable in comparison to the Flora version. I am happy to report that it is, and also it is so nourishing on my skin. It really does help with the tight dry feeling and making my skin feel ‘fed’ again. I think I do prefer this to Flora, and seem to use less of it as it makes my skin feel nourished with even the smallest drop. You can pick this up [here] for £70.00.

Sunday Riley C.E.O (C+E antiOXIDANT Protect & Repair Moisturiser)

Where do I start with this beauty. Another recommendation, I had high hopes for this one as I had loved the Tidal Water Cream from the brand so much. This one blow Tidal out of the water (pardon the pun). It smells of oranges and smells beautiful. It is so rich and hydrating, I would go as far as to say it is the best face cream I have used so far. I cannot get enough. It just banishes my dry patches and makes my skin feel so good. Definite repurchase. You can pick this up [here] for £60.00.

Sunday Riley Blue Moon Tranquility Cleansing Balm

This was a gift from my beautiful best friend Yasmin, and I have only just got around to using it as I was finishing up my Elemis Cleansing Balm. I am in two minds about this, firstly I love the scent. It is almost chocolate orange like, it is very bizarre but nice. I love the fact it has sugar crystals in it, which makes this exfoliating at the same time. I rarely exfoliate (slaps wrists) but this helps me out by doing some exfoliation. The thing that lets me down slightly is that it isn’t as oily as I would like it to be, instead it is quite dry which isn’t something I expected from a balm. I will keep using and report back. So far I really like it, but do I love it? I’m not sure. This can be picked up [here] for £46.00 – I think the price is not too bad.

I’ll be doing a more in depth review of the three Sunday Riley products so keep an eye out for that.

Elizabeth Arden Prevage City Smart SPF50 Hydrating Shield

I’ve actually been using this for a while, and I guess with SPF you can’t really tell if it is working. Initially what I could report on was that it was a lovely fluid, it went on smoothly and seemed to moisturise my skin in the morning. It also doesn’t give the skin the funny white cast that SPF’s can give and is probably my favourite SPF to wear. That is until I went to Barbados for my honeymoon. I used this religiously on my face, and didn’t really use much SPF anywhere else. Till today, my body is peeling everywhere except my face. Nothing on my face got burnt or damaged. How bloody amazing is this stuff! I will warn you, it definitely is on the pricey side but once I run out, I might have to grudgingly part with my money to replenish this. It is that good! You can pick it up [here] for £55.00

Elizabeth Arden Eight Hour Miracle Hydrating Mist

This was another god send for me whilst I was on holiday, it is the perfect face mist. It’s a very soft spray, so that firstly is a win in my books as I often avoid sprays as they are too hard and I am too scared they will ruin my makeup. The air conditioning would make my skin feel a lot dryer, so a couple of spritz of this made my skin much happier. I am now using this after using a face mask, or a cleanse, just because it feels so refreshing on the skin. The size isn’t too huge, I think I will carry it with me throughout the summer for days when I need something to make me feel refreshed. You can pick this up [here] for £21.00

Crabtree & Evelyn La Source Overnight Hand Therapy

Crabtree & Evelyn La Source Overnight Hand Therapy

I am not a huge hand cream user and really I should be as I always get dry hands. However I find the task tedious and if I am honest I just forget! Having this overnight treatment means that I can add it into my night time skin care routine which equals super soft hands every morning. I was so suprised the first time I used it, my hands felt so soft and moisturised, I kept admiring them all day. This is perfect if you are someone like me who always forgets to moisturise their hands as it is so intense. P.S you should look after your hands as they are one of the most used parts of your body. You can pick it up [here] for £19.00.

Liz Earle Superskin Dry Oil

I wasn’t really sure what to make of this oil when I first got it, it smells quite strong as it has natural seed oil so I was a bit unsure about trying it. I used it here and there after I had a shower simply because it is so easy to use, you just spritz it on and rub it down. However after coming back from holiday, and being so sun burnt with dry parched skin, this has been a life saver. It truly makes a difference to my skin I find, especially in helping the damaged skin get better. I’m half way through the bottle already! You can pick this up [here] for £35.00.

I’m so glad that I am stopping being so boring, and trialing out new products. It is working to my benefit as I am falling in love with new products too. I’m excited to switch up my eye cream soon, and make try a new makeup remover, so I will keep you updated if that happens. Oh, I also need to try acids for my face! I hope you liked today’s post, do let me know if you have any recommendations. 

I’m feeling much better.

Hi loves, welcome back to my blog. I write to you today feeling a lot more like my old self, better and happier. I thought I would come on here and update you, as the concern and care I have received from some of you has been overwhelming.

I feel like I accidentally stumbled across a topic, which is often not spoken about in the Asian community. Adjusting to change after marriage and adjusting to the realities of your new life isn’t easy. If one thing is guaranteed, you will struggle at one point or another regardless of what your situation is. You can end up feeling isolated, as it is hard to express that you are unhappy without coming across ungrateful or even stuck up/arrogant. What was shocking for me, was the amount of people who reached out and said they felt exactly the same. I have had girls reach out who got married after me, and others who have been married for 15 years who said my words have reminded them of their early days as a new bride. The messages just kept coming in, and every message just made me feel better. It made me feel like okay, there isn’t something wrong with me, my relationship or my new life. I am just struggling with my adjustment, like every girl before me and after me.

Some people are stronger than others, that is simply how we are made. Some can handle the changes in their lives better and others can fall apart faced with the same changes. I’m not sure how it happened, but over the past couple of years I have become a lot more conscious of my building anxiety. I went through a period last year, where it was so bad, I thought I had heart problems and even had an ECG at the doctors as my heart rate was elevating. It was just the stress of everything mounting, but I wasn’t aware it was anxiety. I didn’t understand why I felt so exhausted and drained. Once I had spoken to the doctor, it became apparent that I was describing the symptoms of anxiety. I didn’t take it any further, as I knew I could handle it now I knew what the issue was. Armed with that knowledge, I am quite quick on realising when I am feeling anxious, but realising and doing something about it is different.

Last week was hard, I’ll be quite frank, it was that time of the month, and I definitely am someone who mood swings when it is that particular time. I usually feel down, emotional, upset and sometimes for reasons I can’t even explaining. It’s quite hard on your partner when you feel that way, as you can’t explain it nor can they help as they don’t know what the issue is. That made my situation feel a lot more worse as I was feeling depressed.

For me it eventually helped talking my feelings through with my husband. It wasn’t easy, we were butting heads, misunderstanding each other and taking comments far too seriously. But talking your feelings through really helps, because at the end of the day you both want the same goal, it’s just a case of figuring out how to each do your part to get there. I have amazing parents, they have this ability to wave a magic wand and fix things, and have ways of explaining my feelings a lot better than I could – without the anger and tantrum tendencies that I always end up having. That helped a lot.

I’m out of my down period I feel, and I’m feeling a lot lighter. I am going to try and spend a few days with my family, because I feel missing them doesn’t help the situation. I know there are a lot of girls who feel the exact same way I do, so I wanted to write this to help you. This feeling won’t just go away forever, actually I bet I’ll feel like this again soon, but hopefully not as strongly next time. It’s just a guarantee, you are faced with changes, you’ve left your home of 25 years in my case, you have new surroundings and people to get used to. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t struggle with some of it, even just the feeling of home sickness.

I found talking helps, just approach it with a calm head, try explain your feelings lovingly without complaining too much as that can isolate your partner. Try spend more time with your partner, watch a movie together or just nap together. Quality time together always always makes me feel better, it reminds you why you left everything behind and also why it was worth it. Speak to your family, go see them if you can, as that will no doubt help. Your mum has most likely gone through this, and if your parents are migrants like mine, their situation was most likely much harder, they had to leave their home and move to another country – that makes you feel grateful for how good you have it. Most importantly, like almost every girl advised me, turn to Allah. Read books that teach you about patience and Islam. This is probably the part of my advice that I need to practise the most, because I promise you, my anxiety always fades when I pray.

To my readers of a non Asian background, thank you for putting up with the last three posts, I know a lot of it doesn’t make sense and it might be confusing. I have a lot of readers who are Asian and Muslim, and reading about what they go through, I thought I’d write these posts as they might help them. It will be business as usual with my next blog post, all about skin care. Thanks for sticking with me.

Hope my posts have helped, even one person. Thank you for all the love, the care, the concern and the prayers you guys have sent my way. I truly believe they helped me a lot. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone, I am one of many, and please know you can always reach out to me whenever. Speak soon, Tanzina x